Hayley Charlton

Done Pretending

Done Pretending is a bold, unfiltered wake-up call for anyone tired of wearing the “I’m fine” mask while falling apart inside. This is your permission to stop performing, start speaking your truth, and reclaim a life that feels like yours.

✨ Coming Soon

New books are coming — raw, honest, and written for the ones who lie awake thinking too much.
If your mind gets loud at night, these are for you.

Stay Unfiltered, 
Hayley x

For years, I was the strong one. The dependable one. The one who smiled through the chaos and carried the weight so no one else had to.
And it nearly broke me.

Done Pretending is for anyone who’s reached their breaking point and knows they can’t keep faking it anymore. It’s for the people holding it all together while quietly falling apart — and for those ready to stop living like their pain doesn’t count.

Inside, you’ll find:

  • How to recognise when “being strong” is actually self-abandonment

  • The hidden costs of staying silent and smiling through it

  • Practical steps to start telling the truth — to yourself and others — without drowning in guilt

  • How to build a life where you don’t have to pretend to belong in it

  • A fierce reminder that your worth has never depended on how well you perform being okay

You don’t need anyone’s permission to stop pretending.
You just need to decide you’re done.

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    Sometimes the smallest step is the one that makes life feel lighter.

    • Words when you freeze: simple scripts for tough moments.
    • Quiet the noise: quick prompts that bring clarity fast.
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    Too Much Noise – The 3AM Club

    For the women whose minds race when the world goes quiet.

    • Truth at 3AM: The thoughts you can’t silence when the world is asleep.
    • Flux & Worry: The in-between spaces where nothing feels steady.
    • Safe Belonging: Words that remind you you’re not alone in the dark.

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      This isn’t about pushing through. It’s about finding your way back — to calm, to clarity, to yourself.

      • Step 1: Pause the spiral — simple resets that ground you in the moment.
      • Step 2: Rebuild steady boundaries — no guilt, no apology, just solid ground.
      • Step 3: Create space for you — practical tools to make life lighter, not heavier.

      This is where burnout starts to lift. Small steps. Real shifts. A way back that actually lasts.

      Let’s Find Your Turning Point

      No more pushing through. No more white-knuckling it. Here’s where it shifts:

      • Truth 1: Forcing it isn’t working — and it never will.
      • Truth 2: Motivation fades. Clarity and tools don’t.
      • Truth 3: You don’t need more hustle. You need a plan that sticks.

      This is your reset point — no fluff, no overwhelm. Just clear language, calm tools, and next steps you can use today.

      What You’ll Get Inside Done Pretending

      No fluff. A clear 6-module path + practical toolkits you’ll actually use.

      Core Modules

      Raised in Fear — Why You Feel This Way

      Make sense of survival modes (fawn, freeze, fight/flight), self-blame, and your nervous system—so change feels possible.

      Module 1

      The Rules You Learned to Survive

      Spot the “be nice, be useful, be quiet” rules, perfectionism, and over-functioning—then start unhooking them.

      Module 2

      Boundaries That Hold

      Language that works under pressure: clear lines, practice responses, and consequences that don’t wobble.

      Module 3

      The Red-Flag Decoder

      Recognise love-bombing, DARVO, guilt hooks, and subtle control—plus how to respond without over-explaining.

      Module 4

      Emergency Calm Kit

      3-minute resets for spirals: breath cues, grounding prompts, and “body brakes” you can use anywhere.

      Module 5

      Reclaiming Energy & Agency

      Close loops, cut energy leaks, and set one brave priority each week—so life starts to be yours again.

      Module 6

      Downloadable Toolkits

      Boundary Scripts Library

      Copy-and-use scripts for “No”, “Not right now”, and “That doesn’t work for me”—for family, partners, work, and friends.

      Scripts & Templates

      Conversation Planner

      One-page map for your line, your words, and your exit—so hard talks don’t spiral.

      One-Pager

      Guilt Reframe Prompts

      Short prompts that unhook “I’m the problem” and replace it with clarity and choice.

      Prompt Pack

      Weekly Reset Checklist

      10-minute review to reset, reclaim energy, and choose one next right thing.

      Checklist

      Boundary Map

      Simple visual: your Yes / No / Maybe zones and responses when lines are crossed.

      Visual Map

      Hard-Day Audio

      Short audio pep-talks for the “I can’t” moments—so you don’t white-knuckle alone.

      Audio Support

      Done Pretending™

      You’ve carried it all, kept it together, and smiled through the cracks.
      Done Pretending is where the mask comes off — and you finally get tools that stick.

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